Ways You Can Activate Healing From Child Sexual Abuse
Need immediate help? The RAINN National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline connects you with a trained staff member from a sexual assault service provider. When you call you will be routed to a local RAINN affiliate organization based on the first six digits of your phone number. Cell phone callers have the option to enter their ZIP code to more accurately locate the nearest sexual assault service provider to help you. Get confidential support from a trained staff member who can help you talk through what happened and provide options for what you can do to stop it from happening again. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE RAINN SEX ABUSE HOTLINE
Or if RAINN is not quite the right fit, then review this extended list of resources available to you at the “American Society for the Positive Care of Children” which lists over a dozen HOTLINES you can call right now. CLICK HERE TO FIND A HOTLINE THAT WORKS FOR YOU. Additional resources specific to working with child abuse disorders and recovery can be found by CLICKING THIS LINK. Or to file an anonymous report online of child abuse CLICK HERE. To learn about warning signs that sex abuse is occurring CLICK HERE.
It is believed by many that the number of sexually abused people in the world is far higher than assumed. This survey is used to look at this issue more closely. Taking this survey provides a way for your experiences to be acknowledged without anyone knowing it is you. At your choosing, your input is anonymous. Later you will be able to see collected results so you can compare them to your own. CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE SURVEY
Writing a letter does two things: First, by recalling your own personal abuse story, you are preparing yourself for crossing over an important threshold toward healing. Second, by moving your abuse beyond the constraints of your own emotions and mind helps to bring light into the darkness you feel. It can be a scary place to recall what happened (or is still happening) to you; even just to write it down. Know that you don’t have to do anything more with the letter except write it for yourself. If however, you decide to include your letter with other survivors who are also writing, simply contact me and I will help you take any next steps, all while keeping you feeling safe as you move toward your next healing cross point. You can email your letter and we will post it with the others. Or contact our leadership first so we can chat about what works best for you. CLICK HERE TO CONTACT US PRIVATELY
“The Healing Circle” video brings us face to face with the victims of sexual abuse by clergy and their pain. As part of a restorative justice process, the video helps us to develop an understanding of the ripple effect of the scandal as it explores the impact on the victims, their families, other believers, and those working in institutional church settings. Ultimately, the video helps us examine the ways the scandal has created a crisis of faith and helps us grapple with the complexity of the healing process. Produced in three segments, the video shares the stories of victims, an offender priest, other clergy and lay ministers, and members of the faith community. The video is intended for use as a tool for dialogue by faith communities, victims’ organizations, seminaries, and other community based organizations. It is also available to individuals. WATCH VIDEO AT THIS LINK
When the time is right, joining a healing circle with other abuse survivors can be very healing. Knowing we are not alone starts by not being alone while sharing our stories with others who want to listen and who understand. Healing circles help to open our hearts once again, and we begin the renewal of a lost sense of trust in others. Jim and Frank facilitate gatherings like this. Jim’s is a private circle, where Frank oversees the SNAP National Network for Survivors monthly gatherings. They too are victims of abuse, so they understand what others like you are going through. Contact them to see when their circles are meeting and to see if either group might be a fit for you. CLICK HERE TO LEARN ABOUT JIM’S SURVIVOR PEACE CIRCLES OR CLICK HERE TO FIND ‘SNAP’ GATHERINGS IN YOUR AREA
Tim is the director of Ministerial Standards and Safe Environment for the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis. He brings decades of experience working with victims of violent crime and sexual abuse. He helps support the needs of someone who has been abused by clergy members of the Catholic church. If you have concerning issues regarding an abuse incident, I trust that Tim can do the job. Please contact his office right away. CLICK HERE TO LEARN ABOUT TIM O’MALLEY AND CLICK HERE TO REACH TIM
ProjectCrossPoint.com (PCP) is geared to eliminate sexual child abuse by church clergy. Our project centers around the highly acclaimed relational healing model from the Center for Restorative Justice and Peacemaking, and aligns with the lawsuit submitted by Ramsey County Attorney’s Office in St. Paul, MN against the Catholic Church who is enforcing the resolution of clergy criminal acts of sexual abuse against our children. We are presently focused on Catholic church parishes (with other religions in the future) to demonstrate how worshiping communities can become protectors of our children by – learning what sexual abuse is, why clergy do it, how to prevent it, what to do if it happens, and to bring open healing dialogues between parishioners who have been abused and the nonabused. CLICK HERE TO CONTACT PCP LEADERSHIP
For the mission of ProjectCrossPoint.com (PCP) to be reached, it is crucial that this work be shared and supported by a network of people who have the understanding, compassion, wisdom, and desire to affect systemic change. Many of the people – survivors of sexual abuse, will be looking for avenues of support outside their religious organizations. By joining this network, your offerings and participation will be made available to them in order to reduce sexual abuse and to provide the necessary mix of support needed by those who have been abused. Joining this collaborative network does not mean you are joining an organization, nor does it mean you are committing to Project Cross Point’s beliefs. Rather, you are making yourself available to those whom this project addresses that need your help. You may be a professional, an abuse survivor, or an idealist with drive to make a difference. If you see the importance of breaking the chain of child sex abuse, especially within our religious organizations, then I hope you will join us to champion the cause. We invite you to join us. LEARN MORE BY JOINING THE HEALERS SUPPORT NETWORK
Thomas Johnson is a newly assigned Ombudsman who helps you to find the right resources, both legal and other, for your specific situation and need. He runs a volunteer office who is committed to stopping the abuse happening inside church parishes against children. If you are not sure where to turn, especially legally Thomas will help you talk things through and figure out who you should get in touch with. Reaching out in this way is a huge step in crossing the bridge toward healing. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THOMAS AND CLICK HERE TO REACH OMBUDSMAN THOMAS
Child abuse is an uncomfortable topic and difficult to talk about. Most of us go to great lengths to avoid the subject. Because we don’t talk about it, not much is known about it and few people understand the impact of abuse on children or the impact of abused children on our communities. Addressing this horrific issue of child abuse is to look at how our human condition has allowed so much of it for so many years. Awareness and understanding of the reality of child abuse is necessary if we are to end it. Knowing the depth and scope of abuse is the critical first step in understanding what drives it and how it grows and how it can be stopped. Kids At Risk Action (KARA) encourages us to learn about the realities within our communities and begin the conversations that inform, heal and end child abuse. KARA’s exhibits of stories, graphics, videos and information provide a platform for discussing the traumas of abuse and how best our communities can solve this critical problem. These exhibits provide context and understanding of abuse so we can address it together as a community to never let this happen to our children again. Contact KARA to learn more or to have an exhibit brought into your church or community organization. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT KIDS AT RISK EXHIBITS AND CLICK HERE TO REACH MIKE
Project Cross Point (PCP) is making a difference for the thousands of children who have been (are still now, and will be in the future) sexually abused. We have a compassionate way that brings healing into this horrible situation; done one parish at a time, in a way that keeps every person safe. Please support this project to eliminate the horror happening to our children. Project Cross Point funding and guidance is supported by the University of Minnesota Center For Restorative Justice and Peacemaking under Dr. Mark Umbreit. We are also in collaboration with (but not funded by) the Catholic Church Archdiocese under Archbishop Hebdah, and the Ramsey County Attorney’s Office under John Choi in St. Paul MN. Project Cross Point is also supported with the skills, knowledge, and hearts of the growing members joining the Abuse Healing Support Network.
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Disbelieving a child is more destructive than the abuse itself.
WATCH VIDEO: The horror of child sexual abuse is more prevalent than any of us want to believe. Every 10 seconds a child is abused or raped. It is a crime of humanity onto itself and destroys millions of young lives every year. We have a responsibility to keep the children safe! Especially inside our places of worship, where we least expect it to occur. Stand with us as we build a shield for the children. Accepting the truth about what is happening to them requires courage to keep from hiding or running away from it. Healing the abused starts once we stop disbelieving and instead face the truth and begin to trust our children.